Blog 32

 

Hi dear people,

In my last blog I finally had the chance to let you know that I have a new lawyer.

When you move on to another lawyer, he or she will of course need your file.
Your new lawyer will request this from your previous lawyer.
On August 9, my lawyer requested my file.

This could take a while because of the vacations, which is understandable. Meanwhile, it is September 12 and this is no longer understandable.
In the mean time my lawyer  emailed again and on September 6 I received an email back from the secretary of my previous lawyer.
In this mail it is indicated that my previous lawyer has one more week of leave and when he returns he has to take a look at my file and make a final note.
Special approach and course of action in this digital age.
And so I have to be patient for a while before my new lawyer can start working on my file.
Unfortunately, I didn't expect otherwise.


As for the rest, unfortunately, to be honest, things are not going so well for me.
As most of you have read on Instagram, I regularly have terrible pain in my neck and muscle tension.
Usually in the summer the heat helps, but not this year.
The nights and mornings are especially tough.
I often wake up 2 or 3 times a night because of the pain, then I have to get up, lying down is not an option.
I can't stand any pressure at all anymore against my painful muscles which are on high tension.
My neck feels like every muscle and nerve that runs through the back of my neck is way too short.
A pain I can't describe very well, but when it peaks I don't know where to look for it.... I get up and with difficulty I spray my neck and aching muscles with reflex spray, I put on a warm vest and a winter scarf around my neck.
Once downstairs I sometimes stand like a small child crying in pain, waiting for it to subside a bit....
Even if it goes from a level 11 to a 9, every little bit helps....
For months I have not been able to wear a bra on my right muscle, I sleep in a t-shirt and sometimes even a thick sweater, to keep my muscles as warm as possible during the night.
When in the morning the spike subsides, I am so relieved.
But sometimes I can do whatever I want and the pain stays at a high level, these days last so long....

Sometimes I take tramadol before going to sleep and then I wake up between half past 5 and 6 because of the pain.
Besides that, I sleep too fast which causes more pain on the left side.
If I don't take tramadol before going to sleep, you can bet that I will be downstairs crying in pain between 3 and 4 in the morning.
During a heavy night this is also at 2 o'clock and finally around 6 o'clock the 3rd time, then I just stay downstairs.
I can't win, I can't even play on a level playing field, I can only lose.
That is how I have been feeling lately.
How will this be when it's the middle of winter and the night is -6 degrees....
I'd rather not think about that yet.
The muscle tension and pain I feel in the right front above my chest, extends to my right breast.
The advantage of the winter is that I have thick clothes on and can leave my bra off more often, the disadvantage is the temperature in the winter and what it does to my neck and muscles.

This week I have an appointment with my doctor because the nights are breaking me and the constant muscle tension is too crazy for words.
I wonder if my doctor can help me, but I'm afraid so. In the meantime I have tried so much.
I still can't get physiotherapy because of the cost and the fact that I can't get a decent advance....
And so I can't win....

But I am so thankful for all the lovely people I came into contact with through my blog on instagram.
The understanding we have among each other, your kind words of support, sweet messages, advice and even taking the trouble to send me a tool, I have no words for.
You are in my heart and I am grateful that we can be there for each other, even if it is from a distance.
I regularly hear that someone else has much to gain from what I share with you, but I have at least as much to gain from you!

And for that I thank you.

This was it for now.

Love, Kim

 

 

 

 

 

Blog 34 Opening a book...  

 

 

Hi dear people,

 

I have been writing this blog for some time now. 

Ithink it is important to also open this book and share these experiences because I know I am not the only one in this situation and then also be dissatisfied with your advocate....

But what to do?

In this blog, you can read about what you can run into as a victim when you are looking for another lawyer and what you should look out for.

Because most of us, like me, are not into this and just row with the oars we have.

Since 2014, my personal injury case has been handled by the same law firm. In the beginning I had a lawyer who did not do the job properly, then my case was finally taken over by the head lawyer of the same firm. In the beginning this went well, at least I thought it did. I had easy contact with my lawyer, phone appointments were met and I felt supported. Over the years this became less and less. Call appointments that took place hours later than agreed without any information about this. Or at 13:00 hours the appointment and there I was waiting in suspense with my notepad and cup of coffee. To finally 17:30 hours a quick call from the car on the way home. Since the other party does not cooperate in a decent way and does not focus on me, the victim, we had to discuss which steps should be taken. Things were promised but ultimately not fulfilled. Sometimes I called the office for weeks with my hands in my hair as the financial situation was/is critical, only to get no contact from my advocate. It simply felt like I was being ignored. I was often told by the assistant that my attorney was too busy or that an emergency had come up and that they would get back to me on my file the following week. I was often understanding in the beginning and actually let them walk all over me.

One day I was at the store and I got a call from the assistant of the advocate in question. She was able to get a hold of him NOW and could put me through. I indicated that this was not convenient since I was standing in the store and could not be outside within 1 minute. But this was the only way to speak to him, it had to be NOW. And so I let het connect me withmy lawyer. There you are in Kaufland, crying and calling your lawyer with little result. In the end I was so desperate because I could not get a decent contact and our financial situation was serious, that I filed a complaint with the law firm. Only to receive an endless email back in the same afternoon... Suddenly I could be emailed. The bottom line was that I had better withdraw my complaint, because my advocate could not resume his work until this complaint was settled. And so I had to withdraw my complaint because otherwise nothing would be done with my file. Nice words were spoken and we would have structural contact with each other, but in the end it continued in the same way. My advocate did not even know how his client was doing because there was no information about that.

Despite our critical financial situation, we often waited weeks for an email from the other party. After 2/3 weeks I started calling the office, then a repel mail was sent, only to wait weeks for that again. How despondent I often became with this! Meanwhile, we had to figure out daily how to get food on the table.

The last straw for me was the conversation between the other party, my advocate and myself. I was in good spirits at the beginning of the conversation, but in the end my advocate had me bumbling around, which ultimately left me feeling not strong either. I spent that entire week angry and disappointed in myself, but the more I played the conversation back, I learned that my advocate simply did not stand up for me well enough.

As you know, I have been on the TV program of Master Frank Visser, are you helped yet? This was to get legal advice on how we could start the independent expert appraisals since the other party did not cooperate at all. In advance I have presented this to my advocate and also asked if he wanted to go along to the recordings. He thought this was a very good idea and said wholeheartedly yes, yes we will do that and we will do it for you! How happy I was!!! Because I thought it was very important to bring out how many insurers treat victims inhumanely during the handling of a personal injury case.

With my lawyer present, this was a good way to also show this from that point of view and what should be done differently. My contact person from the editorial staff received the contact information from my lawyer so they could speak to each other. It took about 2 weeks before this happened. After this conversation I was called by my contact person from the editors, they had a nice conversation and agreed on a date for the recordings, this date was adjusted on the agenda of my advocate. Before this date I had a call with him, in which he indicated not to come to the recordings. He had not yet seen the program when he said a resounding yes, in the meantime he had seen the program and since he found it more of a consumer program, it was better that I go alone. In addition, my file had to be sent to the editor so that Master Frank Visser could read up on it. I have been chasing this for weeks, and in the end we even had to postpone the recording date, because Meester Frank Visser obviously needed time to read up on the program. The meeting with Meester Frank Visser went well and I received legal advice that I could use to proceed to the independent expert appraisals. The meeting with Meester Frank Visser did me good and I came to a number of insights. I can't elaborate on this, not everything has been broadcasted. A few weeks later, unfortunately, nothing happened, there were e-mails between my advocate and the other party, but still no steps were taken. And so once again I was at a loss for words.

In recent years I have regularly searched for a new lawyer. I searched the internet, I got names from people around me. I called more than 50 lawyers to be disappointed again and again ... Because either they heard the name of my advocate and the answer was immediately no (nepotism) or they were put off by the thick file, or I first had to pay money so that my file could be read and then wait whether the lawyer would actually take over my file.... I obviously don't have the financial means for that. I went to a personal injury lawyer who wanted my file badly, a little too badly. Which made my partner suspicious and went to inquire. As it turned out, this lawyer had been removed from office in 2016 for fraud to his own client!!! As you can see, it is not always easy to get another lawyer when you don't have the financial means and/or too thick a file.... And so I had no way to go.

My tip, if you soon notice that you are not satisfied or don't have a good feeling about your advocate, don't wait too long to find another lawyer!

I have been looking for a lawyer all this time who, like me, wants to fight injustice. Through instagram, I got in touch with my new current attorney. Someone with passion for the profession and who can't stand injustice. I feel like I've been looking for her all these years! I am so very grateful that she is fighting this fight with me. It just goes to show that a lot can change in one day. I hope of course that you have an advocate that you are satisfied with, if this is not the case, then I hope that this blog has been helpful...

 

This was it for now. Love, Kim

 

blog 35

 

 

Hi dear people,

 

This time it has been quite a long time since my last blog.
Since I mainly write about the progress of my personal injury case, my blog was also on hold for a while....

As you have read in my last blog, I have a new lawyer since August 2021.
She of course had to read up on my case and take it further, i.e. the road to the expertises.
Our medical advisor is taking the lead in this and has also made the questionnaire.

January 21, 2022, we finally got the green light from the other party.
And so now everything has been forwarded again to our medical advisor, who will make sure that everything gets to the relevant independent expert doctor so that I get a call....
They have been asked to process my file urgently, now we have to wait and see when the first assessment, an orthopedic one, can take place.

So much for the personal injury case.
As most of you have been able to read on instagram, I was finally able to go to the physical therapist yesterday!
I can't even remember the last time, at least a few years ago.
I am now seeing the same physical therapist I was seeing in 2014 after the accident.
This physiotherapist also knows about my depression at the time, I don't have to explain anything and even though it's almost 8 years ago now, it feels familiar.

He first looked at how my body is in a standing position.
It was immediately noticeable that my right shoulder is higher.
In addition, several muscles were examined separately and together to see, among other things, how they functioned on their own and which muscle had an effect on another muscle.
I can't recount it all exactly, but there was a lot that wasn't right.
What I already knew, but the recognition somehow does some good mentally....
Plus the fact that my muscles are not simply massaged to be fixed again after half an hour....
I got some homework to do at home, 1 exercise for 3 times a day.

Which means that I now have fixed alarm clocks 3 times a day, because getting used to a new routine is not easy.
Back again next Monday.
Last night and today the examinations still bother me and therefore my muscles, but it is a good feeling that someone is working on my muscles.

With regard to the personal injury case, I am now waiting for the call from the independent orthopaedic expertise doctor.

That is all for now.
Thank you all for reading and sympathizing.

Love, Kim

 

 

 

Blog 36

 

 

 

Hi dear people,

 

It has been quite a while since my last blog.
Regarding the personal injury case, there is not much to write about, as you know I am waiting for a call for the first independent appraisal.
So this blog is not so much about the personal injury case.

I do get quite nervous about waiting.
So I have asked my lawyer if she can check with the hospital in question whether our papers have come in properly.
If something has gone wrong with the mail, I will be waiting for six months for nothing, a confirmation would put my mind at ease.
She has sent an email to the other party asking if they can do this.
Of course I am still waiting....

 

In addition, last week I had contact with a counselor from the welfare benefits asking if anything in my situation has changed.
Unfortunately that is not the case, also physically no improvement.
I am again exempt from everything until May 2023.
This contact does me good, I do not have to defend myself but I am supported!
And this brings me some peace.

 

April 9 was my birthday, 34 years young.
People said, now you can't turn your age.
Uuh, the next time I am asked my age I will be 43, hopefully the response will be: I really wouldn't give you that!

I have already tried it and it works!

Haha a little self-mockery works wonders...
We don't have big birthdays anyway, but this year I couldn't have organized it better.
I have taken into account stimuli, I have invited a number of family members for the afternoon, coffee and pastry from Limburg. 
In the evening we had a gourmet dinner with our best friend, which was very enjoyable and relaxing.
In terms of conviviality but also in terms of stimuli it was a nice birthday.
I'm glad that after almost 8 years, I can finally think about myself without guilt and make a plan without the feeling of having to give an explanation.
That's another win!
With so many setbacks, I keep cashing in on every win, big or small!

 

In addition, Dennis and I went on a maternity visit to my niece. What a beautiful baby girl they have!

It was lovely to hold her and she was so at ease, sleeping comfortably with her aunt.

Unfortunately I felt my neck after a few minutes, so I had to change my arms often, but I really wanted to hold her longer.

When I was home she sent me the pictures of me and us with her little girl..I had never seen a picture of us with a baby....

Pretty confronting, and it looks so good on us! Becoming a mom is not in the cards, so i will have to be a cool sweet auntie! I don't want to miss these beautiful moments anymore.

 

As for the rest, it's up and down.
Some nights are okay, some nights are incredibly hard.
Regarding the days the same.
I try to see the positive side as much as possible. For example, when I am downstairs at 4 o'clock because of the pain but the highest peak does not occur, that is positive for me.
Well every little bit helps ...
Contact with fellow sufferers, especially on Instagram, does me good.
You understand each other without many words, you "see" each other, you pep each other up ...
That is gold!

I do have something fun to look forward to!
I'm going away with my mother for 4 days in June, a mother and daughter getaway.
Never done that together so it's definitely time.
Making memories!

This was it for now.
Love, Kim

 

 

 

 

Blog 37

 

Hi dear people,

As most of you know, I have been on the waiting list for the first independent assessment since February.
The call is not expected until around August/September....
No idea how we are going to do financially, I have asked my lawyer again to request an advance.
Not shot is always wrong....
Other than that, this is a period of waiting.
No constant contact with my lawyer and fretting over the personal injury case, I can only wait, let go of the personal injury case as best I can and focus on other things until then....

This blog is not only about my personal injury case, but also about personal injury cases in general.
I can still reasonably remember my first conversation with my first lawyer.
I told my story about the accident, about my life and work.
Questions were asked and a file was created.
I was put at ease.
Within a short time I had this lawyer apply for a retainer since I had no income since the date of the accident.
But even then, things were difficult.
In the first 2 years after the accident we had about 6000 euros in advance....
What is 6000 euros in 2 years when your whole income falls away!
Some things I do not remember well or not at all, other things very well.
In the initial period we were both in a lot of pain, we were worried about the financial situation, new to having a personal injury case let alone having any idea of what to expect.
My first attorney even promised me that I would not be evicted.
Eventually I learned that this was an empty promise that she could not even keep.
They were convenient words to reassure us, that's it.

And so it began.
Mailing to the other party, waiting weeks for an answer that often didn't come, only to send a repel mail after it.
You guessed it, yes, to wait weeks again.
I was stunned, is this how it goes in this world?
Someone has an accident, physical and other complaints, can't work because of the physical and cognitive complaints, loses income, is completely dependent on his/her lawyer, and this is how it works?

I quickly learned how inhumane things are in the personal injury world.
After my severe depression in 2014, I got in touch with fellow sufferers through the internet.
I read their stories, they told me their story about their symptoms, treatments, recovery ánd about their personal injury case.
There were so many similarities.
The contact did me good, listening to each other and supporting each other, I finally felt not so alone anymore.

It felt just like 'coming home'.
Many stories were very sad.
I will never forget the story of a lady.
At that time they had been fighting for justice for 7 years, they even had to sell their house because their situation was so dire.
So many personal stories where the other party treated the victim as if they were the perpetrators.
Rarely did I hear that the victim was central and paramount, that the victim's recovery was the most important thing.
What kept coming up was that the victims were not that important, they had to defend themselves constantly.

Over the years, I learned that my case was no different.
I, the victim, was not put at the center of things.
Information was requested and I too constantly had to defend myself,
My recovery is not the most important thing, what is a priority for them is to pay out as little money as possible.
Nothing is human, I am a file, a number that they want to close as cheaply as possible.
They don't shy away from an attack and intimidation...
A big insurance company versus me, an ordinary citizen.

 

 

But it was not only with the other side that it was often difficult.
About the lawyer's world, I also learned plenty.
Within the same law firm, I switched to another lawyer because I was not satisfied.
In the beginning this went very well, the contact was good and easy, it felt like I was finally really assisted.
Until our financial situation became untenable.
As I said, send an email to the other party to request an advance, wait weeks and then ask my lawyer if they had heard back, send another email and wait weeks again.
Meanwhile, I did not know how we could still put food on the table, bills kept coming and every time I heard the mailbox rattling, I panicked.
I always hear back from people who know me, that I am such a sweet girl.
Sometimes too sweet, like in the beginning with my lawyer.
I felt that I was being fobbed off and that I just had to be patient regarding a reaction/advance from the other party.

Not dwelling on how intense this was for us, as he had food on the table every day.
Eventually my emotions ran so high that I stood at the law office crying and ranting.
Then I was listened to for a moment, given a tissue but then nothing else ran.
This went on for years.
It wasn't until 2016 that the first decent advance came.
You can imagine how much backlog you have by then....
But at least I got some peace of mind and I could focus on my recovery, but also learn about what I call my new body.
After so many months a new advance was requested, it always took a while.
This meant that we were always behind when the advance payment came in.
Time after time 1-0 behind.
But it worked out, I was able to follow a revalidation trajectory and a reintegration trajectory without financial worries.
Which is very important to be able to focus on your recovery.
November 2018 there was a conversation regarding the settlement of my case, a proposal was put on the table.
But looking at my symptoms, more than 4 years after the accident, I did not agree.
The amount was nice to win in the lottery, but I lost my safety net.
I can no longer perform much work ek the cognitive make other work that is less physically demanding also difficult or impossible to do.
The only other path to settlement would be the independent appraisals.
These were to be initiated.
Another 1 generous advance was transferred with which we had to make do until after the expertises.

January 2019 there was a major problem in our rental property with the electricity.
We were forced to stay at a vacation park with our animals because the property was uninhabitable.
You can probably imagine, with the complaints we have, that this was definitely not a vacation, far from it!

Mentally, this was a blow to both of us, because how much we have encountered ourselves through the complaints....
That same month I inquired at the law firm in connection with the expertises.
To hear that I was not on a waiting list anywhere yet!
3 months after the appointments, no progress.
May 2019 I was told that my file handler of the other party is no longer working there.
My file would be taken over.
But instead, there was complete radio silence.
My lawyer at the time called, emailed, we were just ignored....
I even wrote a letter of complaint to the director of the insurance company concerned.
Promises were regularly made, which were not kept.
Finally, a file handler came and indicated that he wanted to continue on good terms, but I had to withdraw my complaint.
Because I wanted to trust this gentleman and show my good will, I withdrew my complaint.
But decent contact?
That did not happen.
I became extremely frustrated with my lawyer at the time.
To my mind, we were running after it like a tame lamb.
My lawyer sent an email in July 2019 with a date in which there had to be a response from the other party.
If not, a racket would be written for the court.
But also my lawyer did not fulfill his promise in this.
And so the other party continued to play with us.

I knew I had to start doing something.
I cannot change the other party but I can change my lawyer.
I called several lawyers but it was far from easy to find a new one.
Eventually I found a lawyer in my area, I brought my file and a few days later we had a meeting.
He really wanted my case, it gave my partner a suspicious feeling.
I was so happy to get a new lawyer, I was almost ready to sign papers.
My partner inquired with another lawyer about this gentleman, and what did it turn out?
It was not a lawyer at all!!!
He had been removed from office for fraud to his own client!
I didn't know what I was hearing.
I went to retrieve my file as soon as possible....
I became afraid to continue looking for another lawyer.
But because I remained dissatisfied, I finally got the courage to start looking again.
I called dozens of lawyers and explained my story.
But either I had to put down money so that they would read up on me, and then wait and see whether they would take my case.
Of course we had/have no financial means for this.
Or they heard who my lawyer was at the time and dropped out immediately, nepotism.
Or they already quit because they heard how long my case had been going on and how thick my file is....
I became so despondent.

As most of you know, I have even been to Master Frank Visser in the program, are you being helped yet?
To ask what I can do to get the expertises going.
Some portions did not air but gave me a boost.
Master Frank Visser has read my file, most of which is literally bullshit.
He also saw how the other side tried to portray me as unstable.
He got angry and said: I am sure that if I impose a fine of 2 million for every personal injury case that lasts longer than 2 years, every personal injury case will be settled within that period.
I won't go into further detail, but it gave me the energy and hope to keep fighting again.

Finally, I found my current attorney and am finally on the waiting list for an expertise.

Know that you are not alone, know that many insurance companies play the same dirty games.
Don't let them intimidate you.
I hope this is of some use to you.
I want to continue to help others by sharing my story, because others have done this with me, it has helped me so much.

That's it for now.
Love, Kim

 

blog 38

 

 

Hi dear people, 

 

Becoming the 2.0 version of yourself.
That's what I read in many people's messages.
How one is partly still "the old" but for a large part also a new me.
The 2.0 version of yourself sounds pretty positive despite the fact that it is a change that we are forced to make and did not choose for ourselves.
After all, usually something that goes from 1.0 to 2.0 would be better for it right?
We address an actually not so positive change, with a positive name. It is what it is and so we better make the best of it right?

Most of you read along on my instagram a lot and know that I've been having a lot of neck and muscle pain for a while now, lots of spikes, lots of broken nights.
This is mentally tough, but I try to stay as positive as possible.
Although mentally it is also quite confronting....
It often brings my thoughts back to the initial period right after the accident.
Then it was much more intense, but being swallowed up by the pain and peaks, not being able to sleep and not knowing where to look for it, that is similar.

And so every win, is a win, no matter how small.
Last night I took another tramadol, this night it did help me thankfully.
I woke up 1 time because of the pain, I put my scarf on and a sweater on, and slept on till 7 this morning!
I also slept with a pillow under my right arm for support.
Now I am sitting downstairs with a sweater on, a thick scarf, a cardigan and over that a wraparound cloth.
Freaking hot!
I am grateful that this helps, but besides that I think, it is August 31, this is going to be a very long winter.....

Yesterday I had 2 peaks.
The first peak subsided fairly quickly, but the 2nd peak was heavy.
There i was in the bath again, with my legs over the edge and my head and neck flat in the hot water.
I put that on hotter and hotter.
But now I had the tap at its hottest and it was still not enough!
My heart was in my boots.

With regard to the personal injury case, I am waiting for the report of the independent medical expert.
I have asked my lawyer to start the next two assessments in the meantime so that the case does not come to a complete standstill again.
I am mainly busy with getting through the days.

 

August 9 was finally the day.
The first independent assessment.
This is what I have been waiting for since November 2018.

It was quiet on the way there, but sitting cramped in the car for 2.5 hours is no fun.
Once we arrived, we all went for a quick fish dinner by the water.
That was so nice!
I tried as much as possible to enjoy a kind of zen rest.
The calm before the storm.
That night I slept badly, we are so used to our bed and our sounds, besides that I was quite nauseous when I was in bed, probably because of the tensions.
I had 1 nightmare which lasted all night and I also noticed this in my energy the next morning.
Fortunately it was only half an hour's drive from there, a difference compared to 2.5 hours.

Once there, I met the expert doctor, my first impression was good.
He has read my rather thick file, of the last years there was nothing in it that he found odd.
I explained that there are no financial resources for treatments.
The doctor had written down a number of points from the file, which we discussed.
I also told him about our situation before the accident, the accident itself, the aftermath and my complaints/limitations.
Extensive photos were taken of my neck and back.
The doctor will write a report when he has the pictures, and I will get that report sent to my home.
If I read that the doctor has misunderstood something, for example, I may indicate this and I can send notes back.

After that Dennis and I had lunch with my 2nd mother and then we left for home.
This time it was quite busy on the road, I had to stop often, once at home much pain and overstimulated.
But, I did it and it's over!

 

This was it for now.
I want to thank you again for your support and kind words.
I am so proud and grateful that we can help each other!

Love, Kim 

Blog 39

 

Hi dear people,

It's been a while since my last blog....
I haven't had my head around it, the last few weeks I've had a lot of spikes regarding pain and muscle tension.
So as a result, I have also had a lot of broken nights and am not always comfortable with my energy. 
I also have a lot of things going through my head, my beloved one whom I am so very proud of but of course also worried about, the personal injury case, our financial situation, the pain which is often in total control the last few weeks etc etc...
And things I am sure I am forgetting now....

Since the accident I have many symptoms, if I have to name them all, I am sure I am forgetting something at the time.
Since the accident I have trouble holding up my urine.
Often when I feel I have to go to the toilet, I have to run or I will be too late.
Sometimes I have also been too late as I simply have no control and cannot hold it for long.
During my first rehabilitation, I learned that this has to do with too weak lower pelvic muscles.
Due to an accident, among other things, the muscles around the pelvis can become damaged or slack.
The past 3 weeks the symptoms have become even worse.
On 1 day this week the urine just ran out up to 2 times while I was standing somewhere and didn't even feel the need to go to the toilet.
( Fortunately, I was just at home. )
But still, I was quite upset!
Regarding emotions, I have changed a lot since the accident anyway, it's a roller coaster I can tell you, in addition, today I also stopped smoking for 28 days, with the help of the occasional lollipop in between...So still proud!

Today I visited the nurse at my GP practice.
A very nice woman.
Situation and complaints fully explained, urine was examined and it turns out I now have a bladder infection on top of it which aggravates the complaints of the bottom pelvic muscles.
And so antibiotics, in addition the nurse consulted with a bottom pelvic physiotherapist and I got a referral.
This physiotherapist specializes in this and thinks she can help me, doesn't mean it can be fixed completely, but she does think she can help me so it gets better....
Hope the other party comes up with a decent retainer, because now I have to go to 2 physical therapists and I only have 13 treatments per year which I get reimbursed....

I have a new physiotherapist on the recommendation of, this one takes a very different approach.
Hopefully it will have an effect!
This week I went and next week I will go again, and next week I will make an appointment with the bottom pelvis physiotherapist.
I will keep you guys posted.

 

The damage statement regarding the personal injury case has yet to be completed since 2018.
Many damage items have been lost by me and I cannot provide evidence.
This is because when I don't have to deal with the personal injury case, I want to think about this as little as possible.
In other words, letting go, very important.
On the contrary, I am concerned with survival. ( Financial situation and pain spikes. )
A good acquaintance of ours regularly takes reflex spray for us from the Belgian pharmacy.
And I did keep some receipts, I just don't remember where!
Besides, I often forget to ask for, save and forward receipts.
Actually not smart at all.
How much bath stuff we have already tried for the symptoms, heat blankets, homeopathic painkillers and so on I can go on for a long time.
But I don't have the energy to spend so much time of the day on the personal injury case and keep up with all this.
The case has been going on since June 12, 2014.
At least today I got everything in from the pharmacy regarding the painkillers, and so with that I also have the mileage.
At least that's something then.
I notice that it costs me more and more energy to be busy with the personal injury case, but we keep fighting for justice!

 

Thank you for reading and sympathizing with me.
That's all for now.

Love, Kim

 

 

 

 

Hi dear people,

 

In november i also put a blog online, a little later I deleted it. 
Because according to my feeling, this blog was too little about the personal injury case and too much about myself.
But since I am very open about myself and now want to write a blog about how I am doing, I decided to put this blog back online as well.
So I'll start first with the blog from november..

NOVEMBER:

 

Hi dear people, 

This blog is mainly about what is going on in me, what I am thinking about and what I am feeling.

It's already November, before you know it the holidays are upon us.
I used to think celebrating Christmas was the most fun of the whole year.
It was always about family, togetherness and joy.
Nowadays I notice that I get more of a sad feeling.
Maybe because for the last 8 years we have not been celebrating Christmas the way we would like, but celebrating it the way it can be done at all....
The financial resources are often not there and cooking together in the kitchen is no longer possible since the accident.

During some moments and days I see and feel exactly what I am missing.
The last few months I thought I was coping well, with the loss of so many things, but I notice that I am still learning to deal with my new self....and accept my new self.
Having to give up so many things does take a lot out of me, my hormones regularly go into overdrive and then I get so intensely sad, then I hear a little child cry out in the store: mama mama mama.
And then I break.
Playing sports with Dennis and going to extremes, I enjoyed that so much.
Being able to walk for hours in the woods with my dogs, going to the fair.

Now a days if we go to the fair at all now we will be home in an hour.
Get nice burnt peanuts and go home because pooh, so quickly overstimulated!
A birthday?
A party?
Fun, but the cozier it is, the more I laugh, the faster my neck pain goes up, I get quieter and can't stand the stimuli.

It is what it is, I have no control over it, I can't change it.
I try to find as much joy as possible in the little things, but that doesn't seem to make the loss any less in the end....
My emotions run away with me regularly, since the accident emotions seem to come in much more intensely.
Sometimes I can cry over nothing, get angry over nothing....

My emotions are taking over lately, I am so tired, so done fighting, I want to live.
I want to be able to close this chapter, I want this burden off my shoulders....
I know we have been fighting for more than 8 years obviously, but realizing how long 8 years is, I was 26 when the accident happened.
It was our time, my time to enjoy.
The longer the personal injury case goes on, the more this gnaws at me more and more even though I don't want that at all.
Instead, I want to see what I do have, the kind and good people around me, enjoying nature and birdsong.

 

Regarding the personal injury case, I have received the report of the expert doctor.
I have 2 weeks to read it and correct any factual errors, outside the medical part.
But reading such a report, really reading comprehensibly is difficult and I have to do it during the good moments.
I am curious to know how to proceed....
I hope to know more about this soon and tell you more....

What I want to pass along with this blog is, don't be fooled by all the beautiful things you see passing by.
Everyone struggles with something, but not everyone is open about it.
The grass is usually not greener on the other side.
Be vulnerable, be honest and take off your mask.
Let people see your real self, because even if you don't see it yourself, it is the most beautiful side of you!

Love, Kim

 

 

Blog 40.

 

Let me first inform you a little more regarding independent expertise.
I knew beforehand that this doctor would not be able to establish much medically.

This was an orthopedic doctor.
Fortunately, though, this doctor was accurate.
When I finally read the report I noticed that my feeling was right.
In the end this report boils down to the fact that this orthopedic doctor cannot medically record anything much, himself this atts then indicates that this is not strange and why.
Also, this doctor indicates that everything he has located about my history, everything in my file and everything I tell matches.
To the question, would I have had these complaints without an accident?
Answer the doctor, no as far as we know not.
Nothing more matters to me.
My previous lawyer and I already did not understand why an orthopedic expertise was chosen, a little later I understood this.

The other party thinks 2 steps ahead and already knew that this doctor would not be able to see much, so positive for them and easy to intimidate me with this in the end.
I was treated by a new physiotherapist, who treated me very differently from all the other therapists.
He even manages to keep the highest peak away for a while!
However, I will have to keep going for the rest of my life....
This week I have the first appointment for the bottom pelvic therapy, actually this appointment was scheduled last week but then the car broke down.
I will keep you guys posted!

People who follow me on instagram know that things haven't been going so well for me lately.
I am not comfortable in my own skin, have a very short fuse and my emotions are running away with me.
My energy is way down, lots of pain spikes and I feel sad on a regular basis.
At the moment I am trying to see a psychologist again.
Preferably to the psychologist I went to last time, but first I need to check how it is reimbursed.
Last time, the reimbursement was paid out when I was 500 euros short and they had even deducted the outstanding amount of the deductible!
In other words, I had a big deficit to pay my psychologist's bill....
A lot of extra stress and tension that I don't need.
And so if this health insurance company does not reimburse this in a better way, no psychologist for me.
Fingers crossed! 😊🤞
Despite everything I quit smoking for 46 days today, if only I could blame that for all these feelings but alas.

I notice that I am completely stuck in almost all areas of my life.
The strong feeling that in no area can I be fully myself or be myself anymore....
Not in my household, as the not heavy tasks anyone can do.....
Not in my relationship, as I am a totally different person than before the accident and deal with things very differently....

Not in society, because working is physically too hard, the cognitive complaints don't help either, my safety net which I used to create myself is gone....
Not in my social circle, I would like to see my dear friends more often and do fun things together, but I am swallowed up by all the emotional and financial stress.
Time after time there is injustice regarding the personal injury case, but my voice is not heard.
This sucks the energy out of me....

 

That's all for now.
Thank you all for reading and especially for empathizing!

Love, Kim

 

 

 

 

 

 

Blog 41

 

Hi dear people,

 

I don't even know where to start.
First about the personal injury case then, as most of you know I have had yet another case handler at the other party for a while now.
Last November it turned out that my previous case handler acted without consulting their medical advisor!
My current file handler at the other party indicates that they do not have the GP journal unedited and complete, they are not going to start the next assessment until they have this in.
This alone is so incredibly frustrating because I know this information has been issued more than once, I even found the confirmation in my email.
But you guessed it, that's not good enough.
I indicated that I sign authorizations so they can request everything but then I want the green light immediately for the next and most important neurological expertise so at least I will already be on the waiting list.
But here the other party does not agree.
Everything in me screams to resist, but if I want to move forward to the settlement of my case, I have to swallow my feelings again.
And so I have now indicated to my lawyer that I am signing authorizations so that the other party can request everything but all this with urgency!
I also expect that a time limit will be agreed for when they will have to read everything so that the expertise can be set in motion.
This should not take weeks!
I am also thinking of filing an official complaint (again) with the other party.
Their employee has made a mess of things where I am the victim of, I must now meet them again regarding the information they ask for, I expect at least a little cooperation in connection with the expertise ...
But again they do not take responsibility and I, the victim, am again the dupe and am not central.

Today I went back to my doctor's office to talk with a very nice man, this does me good.
He also pointed out to me that it is a personal injury CASE and if I don't start looking at this in a more businesslike way, it can't be sustained and I won't move forward.
True...
But considering how close this all is and what the accident AND the personal injury case all caused, it's not easy to "turn off" my feelings.

I did talk about someone very close to me whose health was not going well....
<I am not telling yet who this is about i.e. his privacy, but a lot has changed, he has fought and worked hard to get where he is today.
A lot has been taken away from him in terms of being able to do things, but he is still here and moving mountains!
I am so proud!

As for the rest, I can't lie, it's tough.
One night I sleep through, the next night I'm downstairs crying in pain....
My head is not in it and my blind spot is bigger than ever....
I am so tired, tired of this chapter, tired of not being able to heal, tired of not getting any rest etc....
But i will keep going, step by step I will get there.
I still enjoy the small but beautiful things in life, so I put that one in my pocket.


This was it for now, thank you for your compasion and beautiful words!

Love, Kim 

Blog 42

 

Hi dear people,

 

It's been a while since my last blog.
Lately I have been having a hard time.
I feel overwhelmed, my energy level is going all over the place, one moment I can feel pretty good and have a lot of energy, but the next moment it is completely reversed, the same with the complaints, physical and cognitive.
Most of the time my energy level is very low, tasks that I have to do I have done 5 times in my head, but nothing else happens.
Even writing no longer felt like a relief and only cost me energy which I don't have.

Now that I have finally been able to find a few relaxing moments where I feel good, I notice that writing also does me good again and I started to pick it up little by little.

When I look back at my life, at how it was before the accident, at how it has been since....
June 12 marks 9 years since the accident, 9 years since our bodies and lives changed drastically.
And then the 9 year long personal injury case which is so unfair and inhumane.
It feels like I am a victim twice, although I hate the word victim.
I refuse to be a victim, but I let my emotions be there.

Because no, it's not nothing.
We, like everyone else, have to make do with what we have.
But it all weighs so incredibly heavy.
A daily struggle with our symptoms, the financial picture, the personal injury case, being constantly under stress does something to you.
I notice that in my head I have so much to do and want to do, but it doesn't come out.
That frustrates me tremendously!
I also notice that I need positive things, enjoying the sunshine when it comes out, making memories with loved ones, when I feel good and don't have a headache, I choose a relaxing moment with music instead of arranging documents for the personal injury case....
Music helps me so much when I can bear it.
For a while I felt so weak, because the things I needed to do remained mostly lying around while when I felt physically well and when friends wanted to treat us to ice cream, I did spring into action and noticed that I want to enjoy myself when I can.

Thinking about this for a moment, I had to think back to my last conversation at my doctor's office.
I had to find ways for myself to relax.
I didn't start doing this consciously, but now that I notice that this sentence has stuck in my head, I think I started doing this unconsciously.
My body knows what I need and somehow it shows that I need distance from all the negative, all the stress and triggers, need to be able to let go of everything for a while and live in moments rather than survive....

 

I have read a post by Jessie on instagram, @jessiejazzvuijk with tips for when you get overwhelmed by life for a while.

So a good tip to read when you feel this way.

So now I try not to see the whole mountain, but keep making small steps.... And that helps.

Regarding the personal injury case, I am extremely frustrated and am keeping it fairly short.

I actually want to file a complaint, since their previous case handler made a mess of things.

But meet me with anything? Ho!

A personal conversation? They don't take the initiative for that either, like I'm just a file number....

Pretending that they are working on my file, yet again requesting data from the UWV... Then you are not working on my file!

They act unprofessional, inhuman and dishonest, the codes of conduct? They were written for nothing because they do not adhere to them at all.

A complaint will be made, but since I can't manage this like the rest, this will have to wait.

I am also looking for someone who can help me with the complaint letter.

But that complaint is definitely coming!

That's all for now.

Thank you all for reading, sympathizing and for all the kind messages I get!

It feels like a warm hug and is very much appreciated.

Love, Kim

 

 

 

 

Blog 43

Hi dear people,

We all have different chapters in our lives, some better than others, some longer than others.
For the last 9 years I have been stuck in the same chapter, I am so consumed by it and stuck in it, it is hard to remember the previous chapter.
Maybe also because it is painful, it was such a beautiful chapter, but way too short!
The world was at our feet when we found each other again in 2013.

I had my job from which I got a lot of satisfaction, in 2014 we started living together in a spacious house with family expansion on the horizon....
We mostly enjoyed life, often went to the cinema, sometimes twice a week, then here in the neighborhood, then in Belgium.
We regularly went out to eat, play billiards, have a drink, play sports together about 4 to 5 days a week.
I regularly went to see my girlfriends or do something fun with them.
Life was good!

Six months after we started living together the accident happened.
This changed our lives but also ourselves.
We both had daily physical complaints, complaints that affected our sleep, our ability's...
Both of us can't stand a lot of stimuli, a festival is no longer possible, physically or mentally.
We have tried to go to the cinema, but it is a too long of a sit and the pain gets worse.
We do the housework together but on many days it asks a lot of us.
Especially the heavy household chores.
Some days the pain also affects our mood and our fuse is shorter.
We really had to find our way through this together because it is easy to take it out on each other, all the stress of the personal injury case and the financial situation don't help either.

If only there was a miracle pill that could be caught so you are pain free....
I have tried a lot of things, 2 times a pain blockade in my neck, tramadol, naproxen, paracetamol with diclofenac and seen several therapists.
Against the back and headaches some things still want to help relieve, but concerning my neck pain and the muscle pain hardly anything helps.
Many things do aggravate the pain.
Winters are tough because cold air aggravates neck pain, even in summer when the air is too cool....
Before I feel cold I have to think about warming up my muscles already with e.g. a vest.
A lot of stress also hits my neck and muscles right away, every day is different.

 

A lot of stress also hits my neck and muscles right away, every day is different. A good day can just turn into a spike, a spike can also just turn around and it feels better, or can keep coming back throughout the day.

Long sitting, walking or standing worsen the symptoms. Someone once asked me what I find worse, the physical or the cognitive symptoms.

When I have a peak physically, then definitely the physical symptoms, but otherwise the cognitive symptoms since they affect my day just as much. When something is lost, when I make a mistake in an appointment, I immediately doubt myself, always so much doubt. Did I accidentally throw something away again? Did I write down another date or time for an appointment despite the fact that I always ask for a confirmation....And so on...

Going to the store with a list, crossing out what I have in my cart and coming home and having forgotten 1 or 2 things from the list, even if we go to the store together. Losing a kilo of cheese, tightly wrapped and finding it back in a drawer a week later and having to throw it away.... Often it is foggy in my head, wanting to take broccoli from the store but running out, and then standing like a bumper car looking at an empty compartment. So easy then to decide oh well then cauliflower, green beans etc. But when my head is so foggy, it just doesn't work out.

I also miss the energy I used to have, some days I have no energy and feel so lifeless. Then I actually want to do so much but it doesn't come out.

Regarding the personal injury case, I will keep it short for now since i am not satisfied at all. As you know, I have filed another official complaint to the other party. I find the response to this complaint absurd. There is hardly any response to the points I mention, it is even said that concrete steps were made with my lawyer which is not true at all! My lawyer also got angry about this and has indicated that he will review with me what steps to take....

But the only thing that has been done is to send me a new medical authorization by mail. Because according to the other party's medical advisor, it was not sufficient, it is the same authorization that has always been used to request medical records, but now suddenly it is no good....

Other than that, there is no talk of further steps. I am not being met by at least already putting me on the waiting list for the expertise. Also with an advance I am not met, I just have to clearly state what exactly I need it for and then they will decide if this is good enough, that's not how it works. As far as I am concerned, the complaint has not been settled.

And so the next step is to turn to Kifid. In addition, I am going to try to seek the media again and want to go public as much as possible regarding the course of my personal injury case and thus also more substantive. In my next blog I will post my letter of complaint with all the evidence I have sent along. Also the reaction of the other party, very curious what you think of it.

That's all for now.

Love, Kim

 

 

 

 

Blog 43

Hi dear people,

We all have different chapters in our lives, some better than others, some longer than others.
For the last 9 years I have been stuck in the same chapter, I am so consumed by it and stuck in it, it is hard to remember the previous chapter.
Maybe also because it is painful, it was such a beautiful chapter, but way too short!
The world was at our feet when we found each other again in 2013.

I had my job from which I got a lot of satisfaction, in 2014 we started living together in a spacious house with family expansion on the horizon....
We mostly enjoyed life, often went to the cinema, sometimes twice a week, then here in the neighborhood, then in Belgium.
We regularly went out to eat, play billiards, have a drink, play sports together about 4 to 5 days a week.
I regularly went to see my girlfriends or do something fun with them.
Life was good!

Six months after we started living together the accident happened.
This changed our lives but also ourselves.
We both had daily physical complaints, complaints that affected our sleep, our ability's...
Both of us can't stand a lot of stimuli, a festival is no longer possible, physically or mentally.
We have tried to go to the cinema, but it is a too long of a sit and the pain gets worse.
We do the housework together but on many days it asks a lot of us.
Especially the heavy household chores.
Some days the pain also affects our mood and our fuse is shorter.
We really had to find our way through this together because it is easy to take it out on each other, all the stress of the personal injury case and the financial situation don't help either.

If only there was a miracle pill that could be caught so you are pain free....
I have tried a lot of things, 2 times a pain blockade in my neck, tramadol, naproxen, paracetamol with diclofenac and seen several therapists.
Against the back and headaches some things still want to help relieve, but concerning my neck pain and the muscle pain hardly anything helps.
Many things do aggravate the pain.
Winters are tough because cold air aggravates neck pain, even in summer when the air is too cool....
Before I feel cold I have to think about warming up my muscles already with e.g. a vest.
A lot of stress also hits my neck and muscles right away, every day is different.

 

A lot of stress also hits my neck and muscles right away, every day is different. A good day can just turn into a spike, a spike can also just turn around and it feels better, or can keep coming back throughout the day.

Long sitting, walking or standing worsen the symptoms. Someone once asked me what I find worse, the physical or the cognitive symptoms.

When I have a peak physically, then definitely the physical symptoms, but otherwise the cognitive symptoms since they affect my day just as much. When something is lost, when I make a mistake in an appointment, I immediately doubt myself, always so much doubt. Did I accidentally throw something away again? Did I write down another date or time for an appointment despite the fact that I always ask for a confirmation....And so on...

Going to the store with a list, crossing out what I have in my cart and coming home and having forgotten 1 or 2 things from the list, even if we go to the store together. Losing a kilo of cheese, tightly wrapped and finding it back in a drawer a week later and having to throw it away.... Often it is foggy in my head, wanting to take broccoli from the store but running out, and then standing like a bumper car looking at an empty compartment. So easy then to decide oh well then cauliflower, green beans etc. But when my head is so foggy, it just doesn't work out.

I also miss the energy I used to have, some days I have no energy and feel so lifeless. Then I actually want to do so much but it doesn't come out.

Regarding the personal injury case, I will keep it short for now since i am not satisfied at all. As you know, I have filed another official complaint to the other party. I find the response to this complaint absurd. There is hardly any response to the points I mention, it is even said that concrete steps were made with my lawyer which is not true at all! My lawyer also got angry about this and has indicated that he will review with me what steps to take....

But the only thing that has been done is to send me a new medical authorization by mail. Because according to the other party's medical advisor, it was not sufficient, it is the same authorization that has always been used to request medical records, but now suddenly it is no good....

Other than that, there is no talk of further steps. I am not being met by at least already putting me on the waiting list for the expertise. Also with an advance I am not met, I just have to clearly state what exactly I need it for and then they will decide if this is good enough, that's not how it works. As far as I am concerned, the complaint has not been settled.

And so the next step is to turn to Kifid. In addition, I am going to try to seek the media again and want to go public as much as possible regarding the course of my personal injury case and thus also more substantive. In my next blog I will post my letter of complaint with all the evidence I have sent along. Also the reaction of the other party, very curious what you think of it.

That's all for now.

Love, Kim

 

 

 

 

Blog 45

 

Hi dear people,

 

 

It has been a while since my last blog.

As you know I have been working towards the independent expert assessments since November 2018, as there is a discussion whether my complaints are accident related, we agreed this step with the other party.
Unfortunately, the first expertise did not take place until August 2022.
I was positive and ready for the next expertise, unfortunately to this day I am still not on the waiting list.
The other party keeps stalling for time with information requests....
Despite numerous requests from my lawyer to put me on a waiting list already since it can take months before I can see the expertise doctor.

And so our next step is to go to court for the green light for the expert examinations and a decent advance.
August 22, my lawyer sent a petition to the defendant of the opposing party.
Around September 13, we receive a message from this lady who says she is not available in September and October and there is no replacement.
This is unacceptable to us and my lawyer is going to appeal.
It is very convenient for the other party when their lawyer is only available after October.
I am glad that my lawyer is handling this in this way, so I am now letting it go as much as possible.

 

Lately I am sometimes sad because it feels like our life has been stagnant for over 9 years now but also passing us by.
I am 35 years old, in 5 years 40, I still feel mentally sometimes 26....
I was in the prime of my life, finally had everything in place, ready for our next chapter, family expansion.
In the end, Dennis and I had a long talk and decided not to have children as we both have symptoms that affect our daily lives.
Age is not important to me; it is literally just a number.
Still, the realization that I will be 40 in 5 years makes me sad every now and then.
Because then giving up my desire to have children will no longer be a choice....
Very double since we finally made the choice ourselves, but with pain in our hearts.

For the rest the days are going up and down.
The warm weather was wonderful and I enjoyed it as much as possible.
But as soon as the weather turns, the symptoms only get worse and I am a lot more foggy in my head again.
I couldn't choose which I find worse, the physical or the cognitive symptoms.

This was it again for now.
Thank you for reading and sympathizing.

Love, Kim

 

 

 

Blog 46

 

 

 

Hi dear people,

I try to create happiness moments, like yesterday, just cuddling with my little birds for example, little moments of distraction and feeling happy.
I look for happy moments all day long.
Since the car accident it feels like I am constantly out of my comfort zozoneI had already learned that life doesn't always give you what you want, you can plan for the future but you know what happens with a plan, it changes.
I had a vision, I had dreams, no, we had dreams.
We knew exactly which direction we wanted to go, but unfortunately this direction is not even visible now....
The road we wanted to take is now gone....
So which way are we going?
For the last 9 years we have been in a traffic jam with no prospect of when we can move forward again....
These days I already don't feel in my comfort zone when I drive a car, when I go to the store, etc..
Because of the physical as well as cognitive complaints, this feels totally uncomfortable....


December 18 I have to go to court in Rotterdam, at least a 2 hour drive for us.
Which means I am not even busy with the partial dispute procedure itself but with the drive there.
Because our car is not good enough for long stretches, regularly I get a pain peak while driving, no idea how I am going to manage this....
When the partial dispute proceedings are over, a positive or negative verdict, I have to drive the whole stretch back again too....
Nervous as hell.
Meanwhile, I know my body and I know this is going to be a big hit, my body is going to respond with spikes.
I hope I can attend the partial dispute proceedings without a pain spike, because during a pain spike I feel like I'm spinning off, I don't know where to look for it and I can't deal with my pain in silence or peace. I am also afraid that people will think I am playing a show if they see me there in the middle of a pain spike, besides I find it so ***  to have a pain spike in public.
So many thoughts going through my head....


The night is hard, the morning even harder, and the rest of the day goes with ups and downs....
All this eats up so much energy, at night I literally fall over in the last week....


For now I try to let it go again, the physical pain forces me to live in the now and every moment of the day is different....
Anyway I wish you all a great day, thank you all for your support.

 

Love, Kim 

 

 

 

 

 

Blog 47

 

Hi dear people,

 

Yesterday I had a telephone appointment with my lawyer.
I had already made a choice together with Dennis, the choice to go ahead with the partial dispute procedure.
After the conversation with my lawyer I am even more behind our decision.
Too much has happened, the other party has done too much to delay my case, even now that there will be an oral hearing in court, they have chosen to leave the medical opinion of their own medical advisor for a month before we received it.
And then even though they said they could not green light the expertise without this medical opinion, not only did we get it a month later, they completely waved the opinion away!!!



November 2018, it was agreed that we cannot settle the case because we are too far apart.
And so the next step, the independent expert assessments.
Since then, they have had all the time to gather the information they deem necessary AND received all the cooperation to do so.
Yet, 5 years later, they continue to hide behind: we need information before we can give the green light for the next expertise.

 

They know about my situation, they know that I am dependent on the advance payment because I do not receive benefits.
My partner gets welfare benefits for me since I was self-employed at the time of the accident.
For years now they have chosen not to put me first, they do not want to give an advance until the expertise is behind us, and not only behind us, then the report of it has to be in.
They know this will take months, they choose to delay this process, in the meantime they don't have to give an advance and just hope I give up?
Do they still not understand that I have no choice?
Because of the symptoms, physical and cognitive, left over from this accident, my entire safety net is gone.
I can no longer do the work I could do before, and I'm not just talking about the work I did as an independent contractor....
I do have to fight on.

 

My lawyer emailed the other party right after our conversation yesterday with my approval.
My fire is back, from now on they can bully, intimidate and do whatever hard thing they want, i am not backing down!!!
A green light has been given for a neuropsychological assessment, but not for an advance payment.
The financial situation is dire and there really needs to be a decent advance to clear arrears and get ahead for a while.
The 18th we go to the court in Rotterdam, no idea if an advance will be granted.
But considering all the evidence we can present about how the other party is not acting professionally and keeps delaying my case.
I cannot imagine that a judge will not do anything with it.
It is time to bring to light how inhumanely my personal injury case is being handled, and I....
If nothing at all is done about it, my opinion is that the legal system is failing....

I will keep you posted, thank you all for your support, advice and wonderful words!!!

 

Love, Kim